I’m having a devilishly difficult time in keeping all of the various plates spinning.
I wasn’t stupid, I was careful, and fairly meticulously graduated in many of the plates that I know I really ought to be handling by now.
Little by little, over the past 3-4 weeks I’ve increased capacity and coped easily at first and not too bad at the second point of review either.
However, I am very nearly at the point which would certainly be described by almost all onlookers as ‘struggling’!
Some of the plates I’ve to keep spinning revolve around domesticity - bill paying, online shopping, cooking, menus etc. Others include running a successful (and growing) business, blogging, writing, training, studying, mentoring and engaging in a full-on marketing course.
I’m daunted just thinking about it.
Alas, a month or so ago I put out feelers and then adverts for a professional disciplinarian to come in and work with me on some of the things (like career) that my HoH and I agree to not work on together for the sake of marital harmony.
Ultimately, there are too many different facets to Jacqui to be handled by one disciplinarian - I’m just into a wide variety of different stuff - and besides, it is always good to have an outsider’s perspective on some of the trickiest and most delicate of topics/situations.
Those closest to us tend to, at times, be both too lenient and too harsh, thus I find an experienced outsider to be a good bet. A more sound arbiter of many of the trials and tribulations that crop up both inside and outside of the context of a DD relationship.
The perfect gentleman for the job has been found and I am, for now, concentrating well on the things I’ve asked him for assistance with.
But (I know you knew that was coming!), right now, I am seriously wobbling on the hire-wire, not too comfortable in walking that old, familiar rope between triumph and disaster.
It wouldn’t take more than a mere whisper, of a hint of a breeze in order to knock me clean off. Frankly, a feather could have me right now.
My HoH is requiring more of my assistance around the house than would be necessary in a typical week (or a more typical relationship). To say that I am overstretched is more or less the quintessential English understatement.
He knows full well that I am up against it at work, in sport, at university, and more and yet he’s dragging me away from those things to help him in his work.
It’s a tricky one indeed as either way I choose I cannot win, especially not both games.
There are only so many hours in anyone’s week and I think it’s fair to say that mine are typically more stretched than most. My fault - I choose to live a high-octane, eclectic and riveting life.
Though how I wish my HoH wasn’t choosing right now to require more from me… I don’t have it; it is all I can do to tread water in certain afore-mentioned areas in order to make decent progress in others!
Plate spinning is something I’ve, historically, been very, very good at and it is true that I take a certain pride in being able to do so many different, difficult things and to a decent standard at that.
However, I’m still only human and experience tells me that there are only so many plates that any one person can keep spinning for long.
As I write, I keep going back to check on all of the things that I am going to be held to account for this week. There are six crystal-clear expectations and though my business is busy and there is household admin to attend to, I began this 7-day stretch pretty confident that I could make it.
Not comfortably, but nevertheless ‘home’.
The additional chores I’ve been assigned (and in some cases unfairly guilt-tripped into doing) are supremely unhelpful and abysmally timed.
It’s rare I criticise my HoH here and I hope I have done so delicately and, if not, then at least carefully enough… ‘maintenance’ didn’t go so well for me when it was re-introduced yesterday.
I’d love to write that one up, however, perhaps that will have to be next week’s work, otherwise I shall have a much more harrowing tale to tell after the impending Friday reckoning.
Something I am very much hoping to avoid.
Best (s)Wishes,
Jacqui James
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Agreed.
Seems to me that you're pretty well up against it.
Having said that I am confident that you'll manage to avoid any of the spinning plates hitting the deck.
Good luck!