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Maybe Typo?

Confidant instead of Confident?

For me too. My partner is my confidant and more too.

Disciplining my partner and inflicting true discomfort of the levels required to bring about true positive changes can be extremely challenging.

A lot of time the spanks or pain merely highlight words or other discomforts or being uncertain or uncertainty.

I'm glad that your Top taught you this time with spanks and discomfort and unpredictability. Unpredictability seems to work very very well for you. I wonder if he'll continue to use this tactic and maybe increase it's deployment.

Wishing you a very very spanked disciplined and happy bottom!

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["Maybe 'a' typo!" (Also, we don't capitalise 'typo' and 'confident').] Thank you for proofing for me, yes I did make a typing error (in fact, I imagine there are several, as I didn't have time to do a proof read) and I was going to say: "I look forward to returning the favour sometime"... however, I already have! It's usually the way of these things - in pointing out the errors of others we make them immediately ourselves. It's a funny old thing!

I didn't realise you switched? How interesting!

I don't; I haven't ever actually whipped anyone but have been asked to many, many times. I'm an excellent Top (even if I do say so myself), in fact one truly amazing submissive - a total pro - recently chided me: "Er, you sub, why?"

Maybe one day.

There isn't a submissive bone in my husband's body, which I'm glad about as I, personally, don't find that attractive in men, especially not in my significant other. Each to their own, of course, but I know that it just isn't for me.

I could make an exception for a female submissive, however... though, ironically, I'd have to get permission from my husband first. 🤣🤣🤣

True story!

Do you think you'd find it easier physically disciplining a lady? Men, on average, have higher pain thresholds and women, on average, don't like to exert brutal force on another.

Must be a very tough job!

As for me, the cane worked better than all of the other tactics combined. It's a peerless implement as regards corporal punishment.

Cane strokes > spanks/words/discomfort/unpredictability/etc. etc. etc.

The cane wins it for me and many, many others every day of the week and twice on Sundays! Give it a try. A few strokes of the cane a day help one to work, rest and play. 😃

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You're writing again which is the most important thing.

You and your partner set up your scenes well. This is a skill.

Working with my partner who fills many of the same roles for me that your husband does for you plus normal life challenges, I tend to offer challenging therapeutic massage instead of or in addition to spanks. It's more productive and fun for me. I like when he says ow. Sometimes I ask that he say ow for me while I massage him nicely just because it satiates me.

As a pair of switches, our strength lies in our many options available to us.

An area that I want to work on is scene structure and construction and conveying my desires as accurately as I can. This challenges me.

I do have play partners who only Top me. I don't have the option to Top them. I still take care of them when I can because care isn't limited to role.

Conveying my desires for discipline and exactly what that means with context to someone who doesn't come by it naturally with a different kind of world view challenges me greatly. Both to identify and know myself well enough to communicate this externally. And to communicate in such a way that my audience understands.

This requires conveyance of the topics at hand plus the framework.

The framework is massive and tough to explain to those who don't understand automatically.

And yes, I capitalize odd words because it feels right to me. Sort of like in poetry. I'll probably continue doing this.

Thank you for continuing to write. Hope these writing successes spare your bottom a few strokes!

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Do you consider your mental state to be as important as the implement applied to your bottom?

How do you see mind and body working together to support your good discipline here?

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